IF you have been caught speeding you will come face to face with Dorothy Dunn.
She took part in a video that is shown on the safe driving course at Dorset Police HQ.
Motorists can take the course instead of getting three points.
Her son Jonathan died in April 2005 when one of Jonathan's friends crashed into the sea from Holes Bay Road in Poole at a speed of up to 100mph.
Stuart Armstrong, a 26-year-old car valeter from Lorne Park Road in Bournemouth, was jailed for three-and-a-half years for causing death by dangerous driving.
Dorothy, 66, from Corfe Mullen, said: "I want to save just one life - and let youngsters think about what they are doing."
She stressed the pain does not go away and certain memories are still raw and painful.
She said seeing the body was "absolutely horrendous. The undertaker did the best they could but it was still awful."
She went through the funeral "like a zombie".
Jonathan was in the water for half-and-hour and though his heart was restarted he died hours later from multiple injuries.
Dorothy said she had still not accepted what had happened.
"I still quite often sit here and think I wish he could come through the door," she said.
She was away at the time of the accident and she used to feel physically sick at the idea of going away again.
She added: "Life is completely changed for all of us. There's such a gap. It's a nightmare. He just isn't around, he doesn't come in any more, we don't see him."
JONATHAN's brother David will never forget a policeman calling with the bad news at 2.30am and taking him to the hospital.
David, 28, a plasterer from Ferndown, said: "Being a 25-year-old you think you can cope with anything. You can't.
"They took me in and it was like a scene out of Casualty. There were almost a dozen people working on him.
"He was bleeding and there were tubes...
"It was the most horrific scene I have seen in my life and I wouldn't wish it on anybody in a million years.
"I think the TV glamourises it.
"When you see it in real life it nearly knocks you out. To see my brother helpless, with all these people treating him... it's like an out-of-body experience.
"Being in that situation, you can't do anything, and it's a nasty feeling, a nasty feeling to have and you can't do anything to help. You are stood there looking but you are powerless."
David said speeding drivers now make him very angry and when he recently saw a crash: "I just didn't look. It sent a shiver up my spine."
He wants young drivers to see photos of damaged cars so they know what could happen to them.
David was approached by someone on a works site who had seen the police video and they said it had had a big effect on them.
He said time had helped but the wounds were still there.
"Quite often I find myself in a situation where I think I will have to tell my brother this' and I realise I can't," he said. "We were close, we were sharing a house at the time, and we used to socialise together, go skiing together.
"So it's not just my brother that's been taken away, it's my best friend."
THE DAILY Echo has teamed up with the British School of Motoring to offer a 50 per cent discount on the cost of sessions in the school's driving simulator.
The training device at BSM's office on Christchurch Road has a range of programmes to teach essential driving skills to new drivers, helping them to get a head start on lessons with instructors.
Young readers of the Daily Echo can book sessions at the reduced rate of £7.50 an hour.
Learners must be at least 16 years old.
The centre is open between 9am and 5.30pm, Monday to Thursday; 9am to 5pm on Fridays and 9am to 1pm on Saturday.
- To book a session call BSM on 01202 553150 or visit the Bournemouth office at 175 Old Christchurch Road, Bournemouth.
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